Even in the way I was attracted to people- I still idolized masculinity- the whole world, it seemed, did- and I may as well have stayed straight for all the feminist good I was doing. Masculine was good. Femininity was bad. That, I realized, was called Sexism.

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I can appreciate the irony: even as we move toward a greater appreciation of sex work, that oldest and simplest means of ascribing value to a woman, we reflexively devalue the feminine. Which is why it’s so important for those of us that perform femme to wear our femme identity with pride and strength – not because we’re afraid to be masculine, but because we’re not afraid to own that this, too, has power and worth. Ciswomen were not born second-best, and transwomen are not reaching for something lower but femmes of all walks of life – queer or otherwise, born with it or born to seek it – are making the choice to embrace this second walk, hips swaying.