Comments on: So I’m a feminist – and a misogynist? http://sabrinainstockings.com/2009/01/28/so-im-a-feminist-and-a-misogynist/ erotic multimedia / thoughts on sex work Thu, 01 Oct 2009 16:17:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Being Amber Rhea » Blog Archive » links for 2009-05-08 http://sabrinainstockings.com/2009/01/28/so-im-a-feminist-and-a-misogynist/comment-page-1/#comment-156507 Being Amber Rhea » Blog Archive » links for 2009-05-08 Fri, 08 May 2009 12:30:45 +0000 http://sabrinainstockings.com/?p=214#comment-156507 [...] So I’m a feminist - and a misogynist? | Sabrina in Stockings "Lately for every gal I hear or read who says she doesn’t enjoy the company of other women because they’re always so much cattier than men, I hear contempt for their gender and its perceived weakness. (And a woman who hasn’t been around her male friends when they gossip and fight. Of course, since they’re men, they would use the word argue - which is an angry word but a word of strength. It’s not often used strictly to demean. Gossip is a powerless word for ineffectual people and we only apply it to women. We castrate our own gender.)" (tags: gender feminism) [...] [...] So I’m a feminist – and a misogynist? | Sabrina in Stockings "Lately for every gal I hear or read who says she doesn’t enjoy the company of other women because they’re always so much cattier than men, I hear contempt for their gender and its perceived weakness. (And a woman who hasn’t been around her male friends when they gossip and fight. Of course, since they’re men, they would use the word argue – which is an angry word but a word of strength. It’s not often used strictly to demean. Gossip is a powerless word for ineffectual people and we only apply it to women. We castrate our own gender.)" (tags: gender feminism) [...]

]]> By: vskwitness http://sabrinainstockings.com/2009/01/28/so-im-a-feminist-and-a-misogynist/comment-page-1/#comment-150710 vskwitness Fri, 13 Mar 2009 16:32:27 +0000 http://sabrinainstockings.com/?p=214#comment-150710 Ah, its taken me over 25 years to figure out what it is about my "vixen" that makes her avoid deep relationships with other women. I think one clue you offer here is that flirtatous nature mixed with a rejection of the what you called the frilly pink-laced aspect of femininity. But she did want the babies, she did want love, but then again she'll change a car tire in the rain if need be. She likes getting dirty. Lately she has found another woman to play with but its sort of a sexual contest, and she still makes herself through me. Her mom was hard on her and that has a lot to do with all this. And ironically enough she get's mis-read by women as the conformist when she has always done things here way. She doesn't spit at anyone, which is probably her salvation. At least that is the way I used to see her. She spits a little at me, and wants me to punish her for it. Suffice is to say that's something I wasn't always willing to do, but now its the spice of moment. That, and facing the "other" woman, naked. Ah, its taken me over 25 years to figure out what it is about my “vixen” that makes her avoid deep relationships with other women. I think one clue you offer here is that flirtatous nature mixed with a rejection of the what you called the frilly pink-laced aspect of femininity. But she did want the babies, she did want love, but then again she’ll change a car tire in the rain if need be. She likes getting dirty. Lately she has found another woman to play with but its sort of a sexual contest, and she still makes herself through me. Her mom was hard on her and that has a lot to do with all this. And ironically enough she get’s mis-read by women as the conformist when she has always done things here way. She doesn’t spit at anyone, which is probably her salvation. At least that is the way I used to see her. She spits a little at me, and wants me to punish her for it. Suffice is to say that’s something I wasn’t always willing to do, but now its the spice of moment. That, and facing the “other” woman, naked.

]]> By: Sabrina Morgan http://sabrinainstockings.com/2009/01/28/so-im-a-feminist-and-a-misogynist/comment-page-1/#comment-147690 Sabrina Morgan Tue, 03 Feb 2009 10:55:08 +0000 http://sabrinainstockings.com/?p=214#comment-147690 <blockquote>[...]it’s sometimes confusing when you want to fight against a stereotype that you’re not actually fighting the people that you perceive to fulfill it.</blockquote> You make a tricky distinction and an important one. In our efforts to break the hold of old patterns we often either reject them completely - as well as those who exhibit them - or we backlash so hard we end up reducing anyone who reeks of the stereotype in question to nothing more than that. We've all got good intentions, treating others as individuals and not allowing society to press us into a template. It's damn hard not to fall into the trap of resenting/reducing those who fulfill it but then we become the 'enemy...'

[...]it’s sometimes confusing when you want to fight against a stereotype that you’re not actually fighting the people that you perceive to fulfill it.

You make a tricky distinction and an important one. In our efforts to break the hold of old patterns we often either reject them completely – as well as those who exhibit them – or we backlash so hard we end up reducing anyone who reeks of the stereotype in question to nothing more than that.

We’ve all got good intentions, treating others as individuals and not allowing society to press us into a template. It’s damn hard not to fall into the trap of resenting/reducing those who fulfill it but then we become the ‘enemy…’

]]> By: Backwards and in High Heels | Sabrina in Stockings http://sabrinainstockings.com/2009/01/28/so-im-a-feminist-and-a-misogynist/comment-page-1/#comment-147381 Backwards and in High Heels | Sabrina in Stockings Sat, 31 Jan 2009 04:59:47 +0000 http://sabrinainstockings.com/?p=214#comment-147381 [...] Privilege- A fable with a lesson at the end,” written exactly one year to the day after my last post was drafted: Even in the way I was attracted to people- I still idolized masculinity- the whole [...] [...] Privilege- A fable with a lesson at the end,” written exactly one year to the day after my last post was drafted: Even in the way I was attracted to people- I still idolized masculinity- the whole [...]

]]> By: Holly Page http://sabrinainstockings.com/2009/01/28/so-im-a-feminist-and-a-misogynist/comment-page-1/#comment-147329 Holly Page Fri, 30 Jan 2009 17:15:06 +0000 http://sabrinainstockings.com/?p=214#comment-147329 There are a lot of great insights here, and it sadly reminded me of the disdain I had for the women that lived next door to me in college simply because they were obsessed with wedding shows. It's tempting to define yourself against others (even though we have more in common than not), and it's sometimes confusing when you want to fight against a stereotype that you're not actually fighting the people that you perceive to fulfill it. We could all be kinder to each other, but certainly women to other women. There are a lot of great insights here, and it sadly reminded me of the disdain I had for the women that lived next door to me in college simply because they were obsessed with wedding shows. It’s tempting to define yourself against others (even though we have more in common than not), and it’s sometimes confusing when you want to fight against a stereotype that you’re not actually fighting the people that you perceive to fulfill it. We could all be kinder to each other, but certainly women to other women.

]]> By: Ellie http://sabrinainstockings.com/2009/01/28/so-im-a-feminist-and-a-misogynist/comment-page-1/#comment-147253 Ellie Thu, 29 Jan 2009 15:51:51 +0000 http://sabrinainstockings.com/?p=214#comment-147253 No, my dear, *you* win the internet. All of it. No, my dear, *you* win the internet. All of it.

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