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This week’s best of the sex blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Want in Sugasm #39? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the linklist within a week and you’re all set.

Announcements

SugarJoy has a New Webmistress (sugarjoy.com)
Blogathon 2006 (the-iron-gate.com/blog)

Sex Work and Humor

A Cornucopia of Perversion (radicalvixen.com/blog)
How to Spot Breast Implants (sugarbank.com)
F’n Amazing Webcam Show (seska4lovers.com)
All About My Summer Vacation (ellabeecoquette.blogspot.com)

Erotic Writing and Experiences

UFC - Ultimate F(*)#&@&$ Club (thehiddensides.blogspot.com)
7/10 by Rex: A Tale of Two Roxies (rexandroxy.blogspot.com)
Morning After (joeheather.blogspot.com)
Tired? (xantasia.blogspot.com)
Friday Night Teaser (femmefataleteen.blogspot.com)
Facets of an Assignation (easilyaroused.co.uk)
First HNT Dream (dawnndirty.blogspot.com)
coming in her mouth and in the trees (orgasmcurious.blogspot.com)
Comfortably Decadent - Part Three (theholidaylife.blogspot.com)
Doesn’t Anyone Here Want Their Ass Licked? (designingintimacy.blogspot.com)
“The Meeting” a work of fiction (incorrigiblegirl.com/blog)
Shibari Thursday (masterenigma.blogspot.com)
Stand and Deliver (asstr.org/~gentlebutfirm)
A Fantasy in White (hedone.typepad.com/as_pursuit_of_pleasure)

More Sugasm…
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(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

Featured Article - Exploring Alternative Relationships (part 1) (seskuality.com)
Bust a (Porn) Move (myhotbox.blogspot.com)
Staff Pick (blog.babeland.com)
Flash of Clarity / Flash of Mia (sabrinainstockings.com)
Reader Question - Blow Me… Please (shayssexcolumn.blogspot.com)

NSFW Pics

Neighbor Affair: What could be more patriotic? (internetisforporn.com)
Masked Nude Beauty (eroticandy.blogspot.com)
Danni makes a splash! Squirting video and more… (danni654.blogspot.com)
WebMistress Feature Gallery: Flashing Utah (taratainton.com)

BDSM and Fetish

Isabella’s Eyes - Part III (nyc-urban-gypsy.blogspot.com)
Spankable Blog Award (darkside-journey.blogspot.com)
HNT 22 - 4th of July Editon (everythingoze.blogspot.com)
Doctor Who: the (should have been a) Spanking Episode (spankingwriters.com/blog)
My Lil Barmaid Sissy Bitch (caramelvixen.com/vixen-blog)
Redemption (bdsmlover.blogspot.com)
Waiting for Punishment in a Fantasy Manor (adelehaze.com)
And Now for the Video! (spankingkatiespades.blogspot.com)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships

Closet Slut (?) (totalsensuality.blogspot.com)
The Ugly Cry (cuntinglinguist.blogspot.com)
Black Dicks in White Chicks: pornographic fantasies of miscegenation, black power, and the colonization of interracial desire (lumpesse.com)

*Update: cut off links added

On watching Mia’s member site solo tease video, “Private Show”:

That’s what I want to do for a living. I want to do what she just did.

It’s this personal feel, this subtlety and sexiness, that I want to create. My tastes run darker and I’ve got some strong fetish fixations but…

That settles it. No longer will the stocking tease site lurk on the back burner of my Endless Projects list. I want to do it, and damn it, I’m going to. I’m also going to relaunch Full Frontal Politics, possibly as a vodcast instead of a blog, possibly in addition to. I’m also going to have a teasecast (either video or podcast, still debating).

How is this going to happen, you ask, when I’ve gone weeks without a single post here, and when the Sugasm’s been late going up due to all manner of random ills?

Well, two things: Sometimes a long string of random ills impeding your progress can be a sign that you’re progressing in the wrong direction. And sometimes the most seemingly random things can remind you of what you really need to be doing.

Tonight I saw that Angela St. Lawrence (a fellow PSO, a writer I read before getting into this game, and a cool chick to boot) over at ZenFetish had recommended one of my older stories, Smells Like Vanilla, to her readers (thanks!). I hadn’t posted any stories in a while - had been too busy playing catchup, and felt guilty writing for myself - and I’d been feeling the writing itch; one glance down at the OnlyTease pic of the day and I had an idea pouring into a blank WordPress post.

It was good, too. Upskirt, tease and denial, and drawn from some fun I had last fall semester.

My laptop ate it.

This was the last in a long series of stupid, senseless fucked up things getting in the way of my blogging for all the wrong reasons.

It’s not a popularity contest; it’s not about perceived importance or ego food. It’s about whether or not you’re writing something honest, and by honest I don’t mean truthful, at least in the sense of being factually accurate; I mean in the sense of being true to life. That’s what art is about, touching something real. Even if it’s pure escapism it touches on a real desire to be lifted out of this life for a little while and into something wilder/different/better.

(I’d gotten out of chasing my wet dreams to chase a) ego food in the form of a prestige startup blogging gig, b) the unglamorous phone whoring that pays the bills. a) cut into b), creating c) unpleasant letters and phone calls. c) pissed me off. d), miscellaneous crisis crap, caused me to have to fix c) abruptly; both d) and b) then cut into a).

Forgive the algebra; it was never my strong point. Shit got in the way. I’d get my shit together - or some of it - and more would fall apart. All the while I was ignoring the things I really had to be doing, like… oh… all the stuff I’ve had planned since before I started this blog.)

Mia makes some damn good erotica. It’s not throwaway porn. It’s not something you delete as soon as you “finish” with a vague sense of boredom or disgust. You save it for later, maybe just to look at because she’s pretty and it’s pretty porn, maybe for another go-round or three, maybe because it makes you think.

I’m not kidding you. It was so hot I had to show my boyfriend the video, and then (after composing himself) we sat and talked about just why it was so hot. We got abstract, we got technical, we got almost an hour’s worth of analysis out of a four-minute cam video tease.

The thing I loved about the video is a) the music kicks ass, b) she gets the subtleties. Pacing, teasing, putting on a show… She doesn’t just flash the hoo-hah and slap her boobs a couple of times. She gets it. Bonus points for wearing stockings like she means it.

There you have it. Mia is contagiously hot. Now at present I’m not getting any pimping fees for promoting her; her affiliate program hasn’t gone live yet [edit, 12/04/06: it's live; links updated accordingly]. I’m doing this purely because a) she’s awesome b) she remembered my birthday c) I must evangelize for good porn and erotic materials. Also, my man thinks she has captivating eyes.

Straight from the source: “Well, once you get past the whole ‘gorsh she’s got huge jugs’ or ‘how many dicks can she put in her ass?’ you can appreciate the (better things, in my opinion) eyes and expressions, and it really sells it when you can just feel that she is having a good time and enjoying it.”

If you want to see the solo video, the erotica galleries, the sexy audio… you have to join. I’m tipping you off now because Mia’s running a special: 5.95 for your first month. I’m pretty sure that ends this weekend though so if you’re a cheap bastard like me, get in there now for some primo amateur erotica from an infamous sex blogger. Then come back here and thank me.

Okay, as you might have noticed, I’ve fallen off the face of the earth recently.

Life shat on me for a few months in a row, and I kept thinking as each individual incident was knocked out of the way, that it would all be over and things would be back to normal any second now.

Every time this happened some new thing would come along and shit on me.

This continued for a few months. I’d always get a long enough lull to convince myself and others that I wasn’t going to have to pare down, give up on anything, or accept getting shat on by life as the new natural order of things and compensate accordingly. It was an extremely long-running streak of bad luck, probably induced by using up all my good luck in a) my mom not being dead, b) getting regularly laid.

I don’t like to air my dirty laundry in public so I played down, shut up, and tried not to explain much even in private. It would all sound like excuses. On the other hand it (late Sugasms, lack of responding to emails, lack of blog posts which you all know isn’t like me) wasn’t happening for no reason. The reasons were personal, familial, health-related, and financial, topped off with a recent slice of techical difficulties, and they were severe, and they were multiple, but nobody’s dead and I’m not writing this from the library closest to the homeless shelter, so nobody worry.

I like to think it’s over now but after being fooled so many times I can’t be sure. What I can be sure of is that I’ve now got backup on the Sugasm so no matter what stupidity occurrs in my own life you guys aren’t having to deal with it. That was bothering me more than you know. We’re talking guilt-ridden angst and everything.

There are some cool projects of my own I’d like to launch soon. I’ll throw them out one at a time and see how that works.

Comments are disabled on this puppy because it’s a notification and an apology more than anything. I’m sorry for the delays. Thanks for being so patient and understanding; good stuff’s coming down the pipe. And double thanks to those of you who commented and emailed. Seriously - it meant a lot to me. You rock my sexy, stripey socks.

Smut and Sugasm tonight for ya. Probably late tonight, but I’ll do it before dawn. (Ooh.) I’ve got some drafts to roll out for you.

I’ll make it up to you, baby. I promise. I’ll change… I’ll be a better person for you!

Smooches.